Hey guys! I normally refrain from using the word “millennials” because I completely hate the connotation that comes with it today. But if we are being honest, millennials have a really unique set of problems. Before I continue, I should state that this is not to generalize millennials and that yes, there are some crazy entitled millennials out there. But those are not the ones that I am talking about today.
As a college student, I have been fortunate to meet a wider variety of people from different backgrounds. And something that I found in common with everyone was the drive towards success: failure. Either the drive to not fail or the failure that they accomplished at any given point in time.
Recently I’ve been dealing with the effects of failure. Mostly because I have not gone through with my running plan as scheduled, making me feel terrible. (Also, I think I’m in a bit of a funk, but that may be another story.) I have not always been really good with keeping up with a training program and if I’m being honest, this isn’t the first time I’ve tried to start working out more and it stopping within a few weeks.
As I thought back to my attempts at weight loss, I felt this crazy amount of overwhelming failure. And when I acknowledge it, I realize that failure has been on my mind and really discouraging me from setting goals and crushing them. Usually I’m all about learning from mistakes and making a good change, but this is something that I haven’t been able to shake for years.
So I started to think about my journey in self love and in forgiving myself. I still haven’t come to terms with everything yet since weight loss is a tough subject for me. But this process has opened my eyes to things that I could be doing to make the situation better.
I’ve never been a big believer of them, mainly because I always think of my mom playing a CD of a person telling you affirmations. But lately, I’ve been taking a different approach to them and say things to myself that a friend would tell me. I wrote in an Odyssey article that sometimes we need to treat ourselves like a friend and affirmations are like that.
2. Following my Instincts
The other day, I was a feeling like not doing anything at all and I was still trying to force myself to do something. It was actually the worst thing I almost did. Then I decided to go with my gut and take an off day. Turns out that was exactly what I needed in order to get things done the next day.
3. Be Patient
Like I said this has been a rough week for me and if I’ve learned anything, it’s to be patient. With myself and all other things. Nothing comes right away but with the understanding that it will come in the end, you just have to wait and follow the journey there.
Failing isn’t easy and I wish we didn’t have to deal with it’s after math, but it can lead to something beautiful if you let it. Let me know how you deal with failure and if you can relate. If you’re looking for help on forgiving yourself, check out this pin for some inspiration.
Be patient and show yourself some love.