How to Deal With the Days Where You Are Not Yourself

Ever had one of those days where the question you get asked the most is, “Are you okay?” For me that was this past Saturday and I had only one person ask me, but it felt like everyone could tell I was having one of my off days.

What do I mean by an “off day”? Well, normally I am a talkative, positive extrovert. I usually am finding the brighter side of things and talking about anything that comes to mind. But on this particular day, I was not my usual self. I was quite, not as positive and really introverted. I took so much pleasure in having time to myself to write another Odyssey article and to take care of myself. But it got me thinking, why was I feeling so off?

I started to think back to the last time that I really felt this way and I realize that it happens at least once every three months. My body and brain finally slow down at this time and force me to think about everything that has been going on. This happens around the end of the quarter and I think that exhaustion is the cause.

But these days throw a serious loop in my day. I usually have all these plans to make the day fun a productive. So when these days come, there are five things that I do to make sure that I still make it the best day that I can.

  1. Be Patient with Myself

If you’re anything like me, you have high exceptions in the day for what you re going to do and what is gong to get done. So when I have to really slow down, I get frustrated with myself. Patience is key on these days. Sometimes even reminding myself that I need to take it slow and that it’s okay to be slow and intentional is all I need. Sometimes I really have to tell myself to calm down with all of my angry thoughts.

2. Try to Stick to Plans

I know first hand that it can be hard to stick with the things you planned to do when all you want to do is crawl back into your bed and stay there. But getting out of the house is super helpful because no matter what you are doing, you are still able to enjoy nature. Whether it be from the back seat of a car or by taking a walk in the park, feeling the sun against your skin is one of the best forms of therapy.

3. Tell People What is Going on

Even while the question, “Are you okay?” is incredibly annoying, the person asking the question just wants to make sure that you are okay. Even if you aren’t sure why you are feeling this way, just admitting that you are having an off day is a great start. This way you open the door to communicate the things you need without hurt their feelings.

4. Make Mindful Choices

On these days especially, I take great care in everything that I choose to do. Whether it be the food I eat or the places I go, I make the best choice for me. On this last off day, I realized that I double booked myself for the night. It was a friends house warming party and I had promised some sorority sisters to watch Wonder Woman. I was really contemplating telling both that I wasn’t going to go because I was not feeling it. But eventually I decided to go to the movies and not the party. This way I wasn’t such a downer at the party and I still was able to hang out with people without really talking.

5. Practice Extra Self-Care

As of right now, my self care routine is a bit all over the place. I don’t have a specific day that I practice self-care or have a specific practice for self-care. My self-care comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes, ranging from going to get my car washed to travel. So when I have my slow days, I make sure to take care of myself. I pushed myself really hard to get all of my chores done that before I left to go to the movies, I put on my podcasts, put on a face mask, and laid down for 20 minutes. Now my face feels fantastic and I felt a bit rested, which really he,led perk my mood up for the night out. Do what feels right for you at the moment and it could leave you feeling 10x better.

Even with these five tips, the off days really take time for me to readjust. And even though the off day was yesterday, I still feel a bit lazy and burned out because of it. So the next time you have an off day, keep these tips in mind and let me know what works for you and what doesn’t.

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